What Prince Can Teach us About Death

I am not the first to point out that, since the announcement of Prince’s untimely death, the usual feeding frenzy has been underway. Part cult of celebrity, part denial of death, it seems that when any high-profile person dies much before having reached their eightieth birthday the public becomes obsessed with discovering some behavioral flaw…

Compassion and the Elderly

Every once in a while I have the opportunity to hear adults interact with their elderly parents. Quite often the conversations are very disappointing because they are laden with condescension toward the elderly parent. “You know, dad, you are almost 80 and you can’t be staying up so late! Ten o’clock is too late!” WHAT?…

Reduced Capacity

As we age and lose capacity, whether physical, cognitive, or both, we need to allow ourselves to mourn that loss as we would a death in the family if we are to effectively cope with it and continue to enjoy life.

Midlife Crisis?

Having a Midlife Crisis? Thinking of making some dramatic changes like quitting your job or leaving your wife? The truth is that in all likelihood the problem is internal, not external, so changing cars, employers, or partners isn’t going to make a difference. Sure, such changes will distract you for a while and perhaps make…

The Death of the Mentor

Our culture has a tremendous lack of mentors – those willing to train another in whatever their particular skill or vocation might be. That’s especially true in the last couple of generations of spiritual and religious leaders, and there doesn’t seem to be much difference between conservative and progressive leaders in this regard. When Matthew…

The Wisdom of Aging

One of the things I am learning as I grow older is that it is really quite a blessing to have a little less energy. It forces me to make choices about the things I want to get involved with and in. When I was younger, I really did rush in where angels fear to…

I’m not Tired, I’m Just Big Boned!

I am aware that I get tired more quickly than I did twenty years ago. In fact I get tired more quickly than I did even ten years ago. Back in the day, denial worked pretty well to overcome fatigue, but of course not as well as I thought. I actually believed I could will…