Aging

I have always had a love-hate relationship with my body. Mostly I love to hate it because most of the people around me when I was young taught me that it was inherently defective, but certainly I have regarded it as a disposable commodity that will always recover, though sometimes slowly, to the (mostly physical)…

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Every once in a while I have the opportunity to hear adults interact with their elderly parents. Quite often the conversations are very disappointing because they are laden with condescension toward the elderly parent. “You know, dad, you are almost 80 and you can’t be staying up so late! Ten o’clock is too late!” WHAT?…

Read more Compassion and the Elderly

As we age and lose capacity, whether physical, cognitive, or both, we need to allow ourselves to mourn that loss as we would a death in the family if we are to effectively cope with it and continue to enjoy life.

Having a Midlife Crisis? Thinking of making some dramatic changes like quitting your job or leaving your wife? The truth is that in all likelihood the problem is internal, not external, so changing cars, employers, or partners isn’t going to make a difference. Sure, such changes will distract you for a while and perhaps make…

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Our culture has a tremendous lack of mentors – those willing to train another in whatever their particular skill or vocation might be. That’s especially true in the last couple of generations of spiritual and religious leaders, and there doesn’t seem to be much difference between conservative and progressive leaders in this regard. When Matthew…

Read more The Death of the Mentor

One of the things I am learning as I grow older is that it is really quite a blessing to have a little less energy. It forces me to make choices about the things I want to get involved with and in. When I was younger, I really did rush in where angels fear to…

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Fell over the dog the other night Sitting behind me on the floor, quietly. I had no idea he was there And fell mostly to protect him. The aging protecting the aged Didn’t land hard but enough to Bring back the old familiar Reminder of truth and death. Having passed the point where We can…

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