When we respond in an unhealthy manner, we quite simply need to fix it before we can move on. If you don’t, you will repeat that mistake over and over again while blaming everyone but yourself and wondering how all this bad stuff can happen to such a nice person. Here’s your answer: it keeps happening because you choose to allow it to happen, maybe because you get something out of it or maybe because you just lack the honesty and/or courage to get help. Whatever the details, we’ve all been there to one extent or another and the only person to blame is starting back at you from the mirror.