Have you noticed that things hardly ever turn out the way we expect? That we have dreams and desires and that, in the very best of situations and circumstances, what we find is a variation of that dream or desire that in some ways comes more or less close to our original vision but in many other ways falls quite short? Have you found that fact leads to a number of disappointments and in some cases even a feeling of hopelessness or helplessness? There is a solution, but it may be a bit counter intuitive. We need to hold our dreams and visions loosely, not insisting they turn out just as we expected but rather looking for victories in the near misses. We may not be millionaires, but it we have enough to eat and a roof over our heads we enjoy a standard of living much higher than most of the world. We may not own our own business, but we are happy where we work. That doesn’t mean we necessarily give up on the big dream, but rather than we recognize that progress is a matter of two steps forward and one step back so we need to learn to be content where we are. It’s a profoundly spiritual goal that brings happiness and joy rather than the frustration and anger of insisting things turn out precisely the way we planned!