The recent disappearance of a Malaysian airliner and the ongoing difficulty in determining what happened to is serves as a stark reminder that, try as we might, we really cannot control what happens in our lives. We can do our best to take unnecessary risks, but control is beyond our grasp. We can choose to respond to that reality with denial, by entering into a belief system that states that we can indeed control our lives. When we do that we experience more than a little discomfort when things like an airliner disappear and call our denial into question. Life has a way of confronting us with reality on an ongoing basis. At any point we can abandon our ineffective coping strategies and choose reality. Life becomes a lot fuller once we do, because the price for the appearance of certainty is cutting ourselves off from much of the beauty of life – including love.