In my experience, one of the most important questions we can ask ourselves when we are struggling with change is, “Who am I now that [this change] has happened?” It’s a way of getting at what the change means to us, how it impacts our self perception and identity. For example, when our children grow up and move out many struggle because they have identified exclusively as a parent and so they no longer know who they are! Others, struggling with the limitations of aging, believe they are no longer competent adults. Once we identify that (almost always false) belief about ourselves, we will see how absurd it is and can let it go. Then the change will no longer be an issue – in fact, we may see it as a blessing!