Many of us have been wounded, some of us profoundly. The key to forgiveness, which is very different from forgetting by the way, is the ability to look at the one who wounded us and see that their behavior was rooted in their own pain and brokenness. By doing so we come to see that their actions, painful as they were to us, were not about us but rather about acting out some unresolved pain of their own. When we see this, we understand the importance of healing for everyone.